Life Advice: If they are fine with your absence, you were never appreciated in the first place. Leave and don’t look back.
“Who we choose to surround ourselves with is like owing a business. Who get’s promoted and who get’s fired.” – Starshine
Life Advice: In life you’ll be faced with two options, one is risky the other is safe. All situations are different but would you rather take a risk and possibly gain everything or play it safe and gain nothing. They say, “If it scares and excites you at the same time it’s probably your next move”.
“If you find it, hold onto it because it’ll circle and circle until you accept it. Few will understand.” – Starshine
State of Union: Don’t Ignore It
I said something interesting but instead thought I’d right about it rather than a quote.
When you find something, whether that’s meeting people, a job, finding love, friends, it all means something. Most call it the ripple affect. One simple choice could determine an entire plot. For example, if I never took my day job I’d never meet the best friends I have now.
There comes a time in our lives when something comes along and we choose to ignore it. Most of the time we accept because it’s beneficial to our lives but sometimes things are so unnoticeable that we don’t see what’s right in front of us. The universe doesn’t want us ignore what is given to you presented as a gift or opportunity.
Regardless of our situation, if something appears and we ignore the gift, it will circle and circle until it explodes in our face and we finally see it. If your gut is telling you something, deep down don’t ignore it.
Random Thought: To all the healthy romantics out there, have you ever wondered why you have so much love in your heart? Not the easy or attached. Just pure and genuine.
“Don’t do drugs. Be successful instead.” – Starshine
State of Union: Life Shows Up In Different forms
Do you ever have a moment where something amazing happened and you just replay in your head over and over until you’re trying your best to forget? Yeah that happened to me lol.
If we try to forget does that mean we truly want to or we desire to think more because subconsciously we know we won’t forget if we try. The best scenarios happen when you least expect it… which I’ve always been curious about. Most of the time you need to work hard for something to happen, such as growing a business and a few moments later you’re rich!
It’s really interesting to think about. Maybe that’s because when the universe provides unimaginable beautiful things it only shows up on your door when your soul needs it.
Life Advice: Do you ever wonder why it’s 5.3M views but 900K likes? Whether you get interactions or not people are always watching you succeed.
Random Thought: I had a thought that was so powerful it’s kind like of a mindfuck? Once I gather my thoughts I shall write about it.
State of Union: Sell This Pen
I don’t work in sales but I know my shit. If someone asked you to “sell this pen” you should never start the conversation using the word “pen”. That is the automatic turn off. You have 1 second to figure out who you’re actually talking to. Is this person a millionaire? Is this person homeless? Who the fuck are you talking to. This is about status.
Hypothetically say you’re talking to a professional millionaire…use that. Play that card. Do not talk about the pen till the very end. Be a people person by making it personal. Read who you are talking to. Take the pen, put it on the table, and ask, “Do you like being successful?”. What is this person going to say? Fuck yes they like being successful. Proceed to the next question on why. Let this millionaire think since they’ve been around the block and need something fresh. I won’t write out a full script for you because that’s your job.
Find a way to end the conversation with how they can become more successful. Creating a roadmap! Visualizing and writing it down. They could become a billionaire, all they need is a roadmap and discipline. How do you build a roadmap to become more powerful than life itself? – by using this damn pen on the table.
Life Advice: If you’re going to get a puppy, get two staffy’s. They’ll make your life 10x better.
State of Union: Cuddling vs Talking vs Sex
Do you ever have a thought in mind and you’re like “fuckkkkkkk”. So I was thinking about it and when you cuddle with a man it’s like actual therapy. It’s some unique form of hidden human connection that just makes you feel safe and warm. So can cuddling be more intimate than sex? I think someone said it would make a man mad if a girl cuddled with another guy but idk how it is from a mans perspective. Sex is great but sex is sex. If you aren’t a virgin you know what I mean. It can be magical or just a fun time.
I always talk about human connection because it’s kind of what keeps me grounded. With that being said, there are cuddles and then there is being able to be intimate without touching. I was talking to my friend in the morning about stuff like reading and movies, but it was really a vibe. I don’t know we just sat on his bed laughing and enjoying each other’s company. Actually we weren’t even looking at each other..we had sat on opposite sides of the bed looking at the ceiling. I enjoyed the cuddles but this was different, kinda like I was in a movie of some sort. Fuck now I’m like the girl in “How to Lose a Guy in 10 days”, writing about the drama.
Random Thought: Friends with benefits will never end well but like at the same time…if you’re only friends will benefits twice is that still a bad idea?
Random Thought: If someone wraps their whole house in Christmas lights and keep them on for 31 days, how high is their electric bill?
Random Thought: Why are we here? Like what is the purpose of the universe forming. If there was originally no light and no dark how did everything form?
“An angry love confession can either get you laid or heart broken. Either way do it for the 2025 plot twist.” – Starshine
State of Union: Everything Is Romantic
Everything can be romantic if you think about it. Anything in life can feel intimate and beautiful if you shape your mindset. You could be thinking about something romantic, reading Fifty Shades, walking down the street with your loved one, or cuddles.
If you want to be romantic, think of anything in the world and add a touch of romance with your mind. You could invent something new that no one has ever thought of. Explore and broaden your horizon.
Random Thought: Which one is better National Treasure or How to Lose Guy in 10 Days?
“Knowing someone’s soul matters more than knowing basic shit.” – Starshine
Random Thought: Why do we listen to emotional music and imagine amazing scenarios hoping they come true?
Life Advice: Giving someone a second chance after betraying you is like asking a venomous snake why it bit you. Reflect on that.
State of Union: What makes us fall in love?
Everyone knows the saying, “when you’re in love you’ll know”. How do people find the true love. I mean what makes someone truly click on a cellular DNA level. There are factors that play into it like interest, political views, etc. but those are just elements that make you interested, not love.
We often look for chemistry but that typically means sexual and heavy attraction during sex but that’s not love. Chemistry needs to be in the word Love but it’s not defined.
We are technically made out of atoms, energy, and water. Shit, I’m about to get deep into this. Ok just humor me. Could it be that when the Big Bang theory happened there were atoms that exploded and two of the atoms that exploded next to each other absorbed so much of each other’s electric force. Eventually those atoms floated away and waited for the universe to bring them back together. Nothing is a coincidence…especially when it comes to love.
Humor me again with water – so the moon controls the force. The ocean would not have waves without the moon. It’s not just water because if it was then the same would happen in pools or hot tubs. The ocean was created purely from the universe/god and so were WE!!
The 80% of water inside of a human stems from the universe too. They are connected. We are the connected. That’s why we say, “oh look a full moon!” out of fucking nowhere. My point on how this connects to genuine true electric love is because it doesn’t come from interests, it comes from when the energy inside us parted ways long ago and they finally found their way back to each other.
Just a thought!
Random Thought: When you have a crush on a guy do you ever wonder if he’s a Sub or Dom?
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” — Aristotle
State of Union: Dress to Impress
So I am going to this event that has to do with fashion and now it has me typing about it. What are your habits with fashion? I mean when you feel your best is when you look your best…right? So why not dress up whenever you go somewhere. It doesn’t need to be a ball gown..ALTHOUGH I wish it was. Back in the 1800’s woman’s fashion was low-key a vibe and now we have sweats and sweatpants. What happened?
How times have changed since the 1800’s…is the fashion era evolving or dissolving? We see modern fashion as stylish but would it have been back in the 1800’s? I feel like it’s the trends that make a clothing item popular or celebrities wearing it 24/7. I mean Justin Bieber would’ve been punched in the face if he wore his clothes 200 years ago.
Famous designers always say they have a vision or a desire to do something new. Maybe that’s what makes them stand out more. They don’t conform into society and the art they create is what becomes the new trend. If you’ve noticed, lines like Gucci or Prada have their own statement. I can 100% tell the difference if something is designer or not and I don’t work in the fashion industry. Is it a vibe I feel? Maybe it’s a touch of elegance and delicately that you just know can’t come from Old Navy.
Right now is the perfect time for someone to become a new designer since you can promote it on social media. We need a change in style because everyone is wearing leggings and sweatpants for their day to day activities. Imagine being able to wear classy clothing and feeling so fucking fantastic about yourself walking down the street.
Side note – Low rise jeans with a babydoll top is coming back into town. This means the early 2000’s clothes are happening again and I’m fucking pumped.
Life Update:If you ever want to learn true patience without reacting, apply for a full-time job at a fast pace corporate business in fucking marketing. I promise you will pass with flying colors if anyone ever tests you.
“Sometimes us girlies want to be elegant and other times we just want to say fuck you. ” – Starshine
State of Union: Life is Difficult…Yeah Obviously!
There are now endless opportunities for people. I mean fuck…look what I am doing. I’m writing a blog and you just happen to be reading it. Our past is our past and our stories stay with us but that’s what makes you strong and builds character. That’s what makes you capable of achieving a high value life. Why hold back? Out of fear? Bitch – be fucking fearless.
When someone becomes successful have you ever heard that it was easy? No, it is going to be difficult. If you want to become successful you need to forget whatever is holding you back. Most of the time it’s our past mistakes or past events that keep us from becoming great. You need to let go and focus on the new you. The improved you. If you try your best and have that drive then you will succeed. Think about it. When was the last time you genuinely tried your absolute best?
I’ll keep it real – look at elements in your life that are preventing you from working hard. Keep away what distracts you and surround yourself with the people who have goals. Everyone has their own goal but if you can’t find yours then think about what you’re good at or what people compliment you on. That is the key and that is where you will find your true foundation.
Fitness is a massive element to this topic because if you do not workout then you have zero discipline. We hate to say it but if you’re not in shape it’s a reflection on your life. Example – When someone walks through the door super fit you automatically feel authority from them because getting strong is difficult. Even after a massive day at work and you’re exhausted just force yourself to put on athletic gear and get out the door. Choose a song that puts your mind at the right place and SUCCEED! I don’t know who the fuck you are or if you’re one of my best friends but either way I believe in you.
Random Thought: Who was the first person in human civilization that lied and who put that in the dictionary?
“Make the word ‘Fear’ stand for Face Everything And Rise not Forget Everything And Run”
State of Union: Thoughts on why Love is the most powerful emotion
What type of emotion do you feel the most? Can you name it at the top of your head? Anger, pain, love? Those are the three most prominent emotions that humans experience.
I had conversations with my friends deep into the night and wondered, what is the most powerful emotion? There has to be one of course! I place love, anger, and pain all on a straight line to see clearly, because if you notice, they can all stem from each other. That’s why they say, “love – hate it’s such a fine line it’s hard to mistaken one for the other”.
No one wants to feel pain or anger. We want to feel happy, pure, and joyful. That stems from love. It’s beautiful, passionate, and the has capability to make your life truly better.
Let’s say a woman is in love with a man and he passes. She loved that man with all of her heart but that turned to sorrow. Eventually, the widow will no longer want to feel that pain. She’ll have the strongest desire to have love in her heart. Under the circumstances, wouldn’t that make love the most powerful?
“Wisdom is Wonder” – Socrates
State of Union: Catching feels for your guy best friend…
Have you ever been in a friendship with a guy who you always saw platonic and never something more? Then all the sudden one day it hit you like a ton of bricks and you say to yourself, “what thefuck how am I catching feels? This is not 6-7 vibes.” This mans couldn’t even be your type – or maybe he is?? Sometimes in life the best friendships or relationships develop on a soulful connection. You wonder if it was a moment of “Hmmm I mean we have deep talks” but then why aren’t you catching feels for your other guy friends. Being able to feel vulnerable with someone is extremely underrated. You could be attracted to someone and have a fun time but if you know deep down that you can’t be vulnerable with them, maybe reflect on that. So what is it that makes us fall? What’s the root?
Let’s start with Starshine’s story to relate – So.. I fell for my guy best friend in college and it hit me like a fucking truck. There was banter and it was harmless and fun, then all the sudden I couldn’t get him off my mind and all I wanted to do was jump on him. When my friends and I got drinks, me and him always would flirt but never anything more. There was build up and build up (sometimes it got hot) and I’m wondering, “Does he like me or does he like the attention?”
Fast forward a few drunk nights later, him and I go off to a bar and we talk. He asks me, “Do you like me? You treat me different from everyone else”. Starshine says, “No I don’t like you like that”. lol
To be honest, that was a massive lie to the root of my core. We had moments of tension that could literally be in the showThe Summer I Turned Pretty, but eventually he pulled the information out of me. Starshine said, “Ok yes I’m into you. There’s a lot I want to tell you but I can’t because it will ruin our friendship”. He smiled at me and that smile put me into a fucking trance.
This is what I am talking about it’s the little things these men do. It’s the smile that throws you off course and or a gesture he does. Backtrack to my story; Apparently he was into me but we both agreed that we want to stay friends because it’s for the best.
At first it’s hard to be honest but take a moment to look at your future. Ask yourself these questions: Do I want him in my life? Is he someone I can be vulnerable with? If I was in a room full of people, would I look for him first?
Girl – be honest with him and stop pretending you’re happy for him when he goes on those damn Hinge dates. He honestly could like you back. He could end up being the love of your life but the only thing holding you back is fear. Even if he doesn’t feel the same it doesn’t mean that he lacks emotion for you, he’s just not that into you HAHA.Which is okay!!
Once you step out of that fear surrounding the emotion we call love, it can be the most beautiful emotion that not a lot of humans get to experience. Throw away that pride that all of us girlies have. Plus, if your life is lacking romance drama, it’s the perfect way to throw some in there. Make it so that when you’re talking about boys you could imagine being on a reality television show.
Random Thought Moment: “I know why we need the moon but why do we actually need the moon?”.
No, I do not have ADHD.
Self Care Incoming!!
- All the Tips and Hot spots
Whether you’re in the corporate world or not all of us need our self care to make us feel more beautiful. Nothing against botox but I prefer non-invasive treatments because Botox scares me.
Let’s get into the topics.
Advanced Head Treatment Therapy: This is the ultimate form of relaxation. I actually feel like every stress in the world went away. Basically what happens is they massage your head and deep clean your scalp. A shoulder massage is included as well as a facial. I like to go to H&K beauty but lots of place have them in NYC!
Russian Nails: Actual heaven if you’re looking for a good nail salon. If you’ve never heard of Russian nails it’s basically a dry manicure that makes your entire nail look straight out of a Pinterest board I love it. I used to have stubby nails and never thought I could actually achieve top tier natural nails but the Russian’s just do it different I’m telling you!!! I typically go to Russian Manicure or Russian Nails.
Russian Facials: For my birthday my friends got me a gift card to this amazing place called Skin Concept. You can take a look online but they have lots of natural ways to enhance your beauty. My favorite is their Endosphere facial because it makes your face tighter and more sculpted. These aren’t invasive (which I love) so typically I like to get an Endosphere every 3 weeks or so. There is also face lift massage, body contouring, laser hair, etc. Honestly my friend kinda got me hooked on this place so I could go on and on but we gotta go to next subject.
I wanna make sure my readers don’t blow through their self care savings, so I’ll end it there and in a few days spill some more spicy salons.
Starshine Chats 